My name is Shani and I am a Certified Child Life Specialist and a stay at home mom. I have two little boys that I absolutely adore and love taking care of. I am a California girl who moved to New York eight years ago to pursue my career and start my life with my husband. We travel frequently back home to stay connected with family and my kids have become veterans on a plane. I have three passions in life; my family, child life and living a healthy lifestyle. Come check me out at Child Life Mommy!
It’s been nearly four and a half years since I hung up my hospital badge as a full-time child life specialist and changed my path to become a stay at home mom. It was one of the most difficult decisions I made because I have such a strong passion for the field and really just loved my job. The relationships I built with the patients, families and medical team members was amazing. I miss them so much. I felt like I made a difference in the kid’s lives and it was so rewarding.
I always knew I wanted to be a mom. I pictured myself raising kids and watching them reach all the different milestones. I knew that I didn’t want someone else to witness all the wonderful developments and then relate to me when I picked them up from daycare. Even though it was a tough decision to make it was the right one for our family. I have empathy for other parents who would love to be a stay at home but are forced to work for financial reasons. I hope that they are able to find an emotional balance between the two.
Here I am now with two young boys and wondering when I will return full-time. I know it won’t be anytime soon, as my youngest is only 13 months. I have however been able to find a better balance of staying connected and feeling like my purpose as both a child life specialist and a mom are being put to use.
Volunteering in a bereavement group to help support children and their families who have lost a loved one, is very fulfilling. I am also delighted to know that my blog/site is a great tool to stay connected and reach people who I never thought I could reach.
The field of child life will always be there. It will continue to grow and expand in hospitals and alternative settings. I know that I will be back one day, but until then, this mommy is loving all the good, bad and ugly sides of being a stay at home parent.